Resolving to do something is great. Having resolve to do something is better. Actually doing something is the best. So if your resolutions aren’t working for you, maybe it’s time to rethink the whole process and come at it from a different angle this year.
I propose you make a straightforward three-part plan designed to create forward motion in your life. More than a stale list of things you either do or don’t, this plan is more of a story, a compelling, living, breathing narrative in which you are the main character. The three parts could be: What you want to Learn, what you want to Do, and who you want to Be.
It’s that simple. Learn, Do, Be.
What have you always wanted to know more about but never put in the effort, due to being “busy” or just too darn practical? This year, give yourself permission to take a deep dive into something, regardless of the potential benefits. If you want to learn it, there’s probably a great reason why – which you’ll only discover by getting your hands dirty and figuring it out. From parsing out a new language to jazz guitar to raising alpacas, there’s a big wide world of stuff out there just waiting for you to fall in love with.
For me, this year I want to learn how to meditate. I’ve read and heard about so many benefits to meditation that I want to eventually become a master in its art and practice. This is a challenging thing for me to learn because I hate sitting still and feel like I can only be productive if I’m actively DOING something. Like many people in our media-soaked, notification ping-happy world, it’s difficult for me to slow down, quiet the beeping and buzzing, and really connect with what I’m thinking and feeling. My dabbling in beginner’s meditation so far has already allowed me insight and strength of mind I didn’t know I could access by just being present and paying attention to my thoughts and breathing.
What are you going to do this year that will shake things up, so it’s not just more of the same? What are you going to do that you’re absolutely terrified of, but that will open new horizons for you and teach you things about yourself you can’t learn any other way? What are you going to do to make this world a better place, in large ways or small? Action – or inaction – is what will define this year – and the rest of your life.
What are those things you’ve always wanted to do, but never have? What are those things that you’d like to do someday, but someday never comes? It’s a cliché to say that life is short. Actually, for many people, life goes on and on, and nothing much of note happens, and “someday” gets pushed out further and further into the future, so far that “someday” never comes. Don’t wait to act on your “somedays”. What if someday is today?
Apart from what you want to learn and do, what do you want to be this year? Do you want to be more assertive, more compassionate, more patient? How is this year’s you going to BE different from last year’s? If you believe that people don’t change, that you don’t change – what if this year you decide to be the you that does? What would have to shift in your life to make that change happen?
Learning something new and taking action in your life can’t help but produce movement – a forward motion that cracks and breaks up those parts of you you assumed were solidified and stuck. The common misconception is that you need to perform Herculean feats in order to change yourself – great efforts all at once – or nothing will happen. But it’s actually the small positive changes, repeated consistently over time, that have the biggest impact. Don’t let the false dichotomy of doing something huge or doing nothing at all prevent you from building small positive habits that produce real results over time.
So, how about you? What will you learn, do, and be this year? Share your theme in the comment section below.[/text_output][share title=”Share this Post” facebook=”true” twitter=”true” google_plus=”true” linkedin=”true” reddit=”true” email=”true”]